Exposing Lies That Singles Believe
Is that you? Are you single? Are you OK with it…or are you always complaining to God and others about your condition?
Just asking! :-)
I honestly believe one of the biggest dangers that singles face is believing lies from the enemy. Jesus said in John 8:44 that satan is a liar and the father of lies…let me expose three lies that all singles WILL believe at some point if the TRUTH isn’t taught…
#1 - “It’s wrong for me to want to be married.”
I once heard a speaker say this and I wanted to punch him…in the throat! He was married…and was telling singles that they should not want what he had. (Which, in retrospect, was incredibly hypocritical!)
Singles…it is NOT wrong to want to be married one day. And…it’s NOT wrong to tell God you want to be married. (By the way—He already knows—be honest!!!)
Some people have completely butchered God’s Word on this subject, claiming that the Bible teaches that being single is a good thing and should be the desire of every single…and only the immature people get married.
That’s just not true! There were both cultural and contextual reasons that the Apostle Paul wrote what he wrote about some people not getting married…and I can assure you it had nothing to do with being stronger or weaker in the faith!
If God created you to be with someone on this planet…then I would say it is RIGHT to have a desire to be joined with the person God custom designed for you!
#2 - “He/She Will Do I Guess…”
Let me say this very clearly…the day we begin to STOP looking for the Ephesians 3:20 type of person and begin to look for “good enough” is the day when things will go VERY BADLY for us in regards to future relationships and marriage.
I always tell people when it comes to dating and marriage—DO NOT SETTLE FOR A “FIXER-UPPER” WHEN GOD HAS SO MUCH MORE!!!
Most often a single will feel forced that they MUST settle for good enough because of a sexually active past, a divorce or just a sense of desperation. BUT…
Let me just say that it is usually the female who wrestles with this one! Ladies—let me say it CLEARLY…if you are a follower of Christ then that makes you a daughter of the KING of the UNIVERSE! A princess is worth the pursuit of a prince…she’s worthy of honor and respect and should NEVER stoop down and search through the dumpsters because she’s feeling a little alone on the weekend!!!
#3 - “Taking Risks Always Ends Badly!”
AND…it’s usually the guy who struggles with this one!
I know so many guys who will talk ABOUT asking a girl out—they will talk to her friends about asking her out (which was cool in 1st grade)—they will pray about asking her out…but they just won’t ever ask the girl about because they are afraid of rejection!!!
Dude—if you want to ask a girl out—take a risk, ASK HER! (And PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE don’t have a friend do it!!!) If she says “yes,” then it is a WONDERFUL IDEA to have a plan! And, if she says “no” then at least you don’t have to spend hours and hours wondering about it anymore.
Seriously bro…a part of being a man is facing your fears…so GO FOR IT!
And…dude, if she says “no” then LEAVE HER THE HECK ALONE! Seriously, move on! Don’t be the freak that followers her and believes, “If I will just post about how obsessed I am with her on Facebook she will see the light…”
Seriously—STOP IT!!! You are freaking her out!!
Ask her…take a risk…and go from there.
(By the way dude…if a young lady emails you this blog post and HIGHLIGHTS this point—she’s DROPPING YOU A FLIPPIN’ HINT…ASK HER OUT!!!)
(By the way…we are currently working on a singles series for the fall of 2009! And yes, I KNOW many of you are hoping you will be married by then!!! Don’t worry—there will be lots in there for married peeps too!)