A Valentines Day Rant

Happy Valentines Day…I guess.

I know this is supposed to be a happy day…but there are about five things in regards to this day and romance in particular than get on my nerves.

#1 - Cupid

I don’t know who in the heck thought of the guy who wears a diaper and flies around shooting people in the butt with arrows…thus causing them to fall in love…BUT I do know one thing–WHOEVER it was did not live in the South. Seriously…a dude in a diaper with a bow and arrow just would not be very popular in these here parts!

#2 - Passive Men

I once heard a guy say, “I don’t see anything wrong with a girl asking a guy out.” I told him, “That is because you are pathetic!”

Call me “old fashioned,” BUT…the Bible says in Proverbs 18:22, “He who FINDS a wife FINDS what is good and receives favor from the Lord.” Key word–FIND!!!

Dudes, trust me–women desire to be pursued…and if they have to pursue you then they will one day resent you because of your passivity.

By the way guys…pursuing a girl IS NOT sending her a text asking her on a date…nor is it having a friend speak to her (unless you are in the first grade.) It is you BEING the MAN and asking her out…and if she says no then handling it with class!

#3 - Desperate women

Too many women in today’s world (especially Christian women) think that something is wrong with them if there is not a man by their side…so, often times they are willing to take whatever comes along.

Ladies…you are BETTER than WHATEVER! A guy should view you as a daughter of God…and treat you accordingly. You do not have to settle–if you are a Christian then you are literally a child of the KING of the Universe…and He desires for you to wait on the BEST!

I’ve seen ladies fall prey to their own insecurities when weak-ego driven men begin to ask them to compromise. She thinks, “If I don’t then he won’t,” and then proceeds to do what she knows she should not do–ONLY because she wants to say, “Yes, as a matter of fact I am dating…”

Is it wrong to want to date and get married? HECK NO…but it is wrong to allow that desire consume you to the point that you are willing to go against God’s Word JUST to have a dude in your life.

#4 - Lazy Husbands

Guys, let’s all admit it…one of the BIGGEST temptations in marriage is to STOP pursuing our wives once we say, “I do.”

HOWEVER, one of the things the Lord has been showing me lately in Ephesians 5:25 is that I am to love Lucretia like He loves the church…has their ever been a time that He didn’t pursue the church? Even when she doesn’t respond–He still pursues. Even when she ignores–He still pursues. Even when she dishonors Him–He honors her. Love her as Christ loves the church–AT ALL TIMES!

There are COUNTLESS times in my marriage that I have been lazy and felt like the relationship needs to revolve around me, however, as my friend Jason Wilson said the other day, “I do not see any Scripture where my wife is commanded to serve me…but there are plenty that tell me to serve her!”

What does that mean? Back rubs…with NO strings attached (she KNOWS your motives!) Foot rubs! Taking care of the kids while she takes a long bath…you get the picture. AND NOT JUST DOING THESE THINGS ON VALENTINES DAY…but doing your best to go all out as often as possible.

This is a struggle for men…we want to use the excuse, “Well, I’m just tired,” but for some reason we get angry at her when she says the same thing later on at night!!! Hypocritical maybe?

#5 - Demoralizing Wives

One of the things that really hacks me off is women who will form groups in which they do nothing but BASH their husbands. (Some ladies actually disguise these as “Bible studies” and gossip in the form of “prayer requests!”)

I’ve literally been working out on a treadmill in the gym and listened to ladies near me talk about their husbands in such a way that it made me want to THROW UP!

There are ladies all over the country that wonder why their kids don’t respect the dad…not realizing that its because they always “bash dad” in front of them. If you tell your kids how stupid their father is for long enough…eventually they will believe you!

Proverbs 21:9 and Proverbs 25:24 say a few things about this type of wife…you can also check out Proverbs 21:19 and Proverbs 27:15!

I love my wife–she does an excellent job of encouraging me…and she NEVER puts me down in front of other people–EVER! If she has a problem with me (and she has!!!) she ALWAYS comes and talks to me one on one…and we work it out!

Whew…rant over!

AND…it looks like I wasn’t the only one on a rant today…Scott had a few things to say as well!