Q & A With Lucretia–Part One

#1 - How do you deal with the criticism that comes Perry’s way? 

My initial reaction is to debate “them” and logically explain to them why they are wrong; however, I know that will not work–it is equal to casting pearls before the pigs.  It does hurt me when this happens, but  ultimately I leave it in God’s hands because I know that the critics do not know Perry, nor do they understand what is going on at NewSpring.  AND I try to see it in a positive light because usually the time of most criticism is usually preceding something incredible.

#2 - Have you ever been surprised at a story, comment or ad lib that Perry said during a sermon?  

No!  Perry is Perry–the guy people see on stage every Sunday is the same guy I am married to–he doesn’t change, he always like that…and so it doesn’t surprise me when he says or does certain things because that’s just the way he is.

If there is every anything regarding me that Perry thinks is questionable he always runs it by me and asks my permission before sharing the story.

I know when Perry says things he didn’t plan to say…and it always cracks me up when he cracks himself up.

#3 - How do you balance your role as Perry’s wife with the expectations the church has of you as a pastor’s wife?  Just as Perry doesn’t fit the mold for the typical preacher, the same seems to be true of you and your involvement in NewSpring and it’s ministries?

Before we began dating I dealt with the fact that I didn’t fit the role of the typical pastors wife that I had always known; however, in seeking Jesus He clearly showed me that my call was not to fit a particular mold…but to just be me and Perry’s wife.

When it comes down to it…I am the ONLY person who can support Perry in the way that I do…and he has made it very clear to the church from the beginning that I am his wife–not the churches wife, and he has always refused to allow unrealistic expectations to be placed upon me by those who could never understand what it is like to be in my shoes.

Bottom line–Perry IS my ministry…and as his wife I am called to encourage and support him first…NOT be involved in tons of activities to merely keep church people happy.

I fear that too many pastors wives focus on the churches calling on their lives rather than what God has called them to do.  I know that He has called me to be unique…and while I won’t be singing or playing piano any time soon because those are not my talents and abilities…I will be faithful to Him and His calling and giftedness on my life.

#4 - Can I have your white chocolate cake recipe?  

Yes!  I will get Perry to post it sometime in the future.